5 Tips for Better Group Conversations
In a small group Bible study, the goal is always to create a healthy, secure space where open and honest conversations flow and everyone feels equally free to contribute. Some groups find their groove from the word “go,” while others move at a slower pace.
Whether it feels natural or takes intentional time, studying the Bible in a group is helpful for proper Scripture interpretation and long-term spiritual growth. For “as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17).
The following five tips will help you encourage deep, free-flowing conversation in your groups:
1. Remove distractions
Focusing after a long day of work, parenting, or other life circumstances can be difficult. If we want to put worries aside to be present in our groups, we have to be intentional. What specific behaviors or habits could you use to shift your focus before sitting down with your group?
One method is to get out a piece of paper and write down everything on your mind. Write down anxieties, distractions, expectations of the evening, plans for tomorrow, and anything else consuming your thoughts. Getting our mind-clutter out and onto the page frees us to focus on one another.
Remember Paul’s advice in Philippians to “not be anxious about anything” but to turn to prayer. As a result, “the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).
If we want to put worries aside to be present in our groups, we have to be intentional.
Commit to being open with your group. If you choose to be vulnerable, it will lead others to do the same! Your group and discussion will be better for it.
While it can be scary to let yourself show weakness or not have all the answers, you are called to true community. That means showing the real you and your real life. Share your true prayer requests and answers to questions, not just what you think is acceptable or will make others think well of you.
James tells us, “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed” (James 5:16).
If you choose to be vulnerable, it will leads others to do the same!
The first step to building community in your group is showing up! Make sure that your group is a priority in your life. As much as you are able, show up to every group meeting.
However, showing intentional care and interest in other group members should extend beyond your weekly meeting. Could you follow up with a member on a prayer request they shared during your discussion? Is there a need you could meet for them? Would you extend an invitation to get to know someone personally outside of your group?
Hebrews reminds us, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Showing intentional care and interest in other group members should extend beyond your weekly meeting.
4. Stay on topic
During your group discussion, it is best to stay focused on the passage and follow the guidance of your group leader.
While it’s always great to share your perspective and life with the group, it may be best to hold back from giving your review of a recent movie, bringing up a divisive political topic, or telling a long story about a recent vacation during your discussion time.
Before you speak, think, “Is this relevant to the group discussion? Am I talking to draw attention to myself or to share for the good of the group?”
5. Grow together
Just as there is always room to grow in God’s Word, there is room for everyone to grow in group Bible study. If you commit as a group to growth, you will all be able to look back and see how far you’ve come by the end of your time together.
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This was a great review and helpful. Something that has really helped our group stay focused over the years (online) is that our discussion leader always gets on 15 minutes early before our meeting begins. That gives us some time to chat and share our week with each other, and then we can begin at our set time, and almost everyone is there on time, and we don’t spend time chatting before or after prayer. I love this! It’s a serious commitment for our leader, and I think we all really appreciate all she does for us.
Thank you so much, this information is very helpful and I hope to implement several of these tips in my discussion group. Thank you.
Thank you, I am blessed and encouraged by these guidelines, and I desire to be more intentional.
awesome tips, I will be sure to implement
Thank you for these tips , it will help to be more thoughtful.
I have two women who are doing their lessons on their phones. This is new to me.
Thanks for these 5 tips. I like the tip on Remove Distractions. Will try this out. And I fully agree on building community because this will draw the members to be closer. I would like to share that Prayer Request for GM is very important and need to keep reminding all to pray for one another. Have also advised my GM to come earlier to pray for one another and be a prayer warrior for our little community.
I am encouraged by this guide
Thanks for sharing the good tips.
Some of my GLs would like to know whether there’s Chinese version?
Dear Job – not at this time, but translating the BSF blog is a project we are working toward! Please pray with us about this project – we are grateful for you!
Thank you very much for this information it has helped me greatly especially as I start leading a BSF group
Thank you for sharing. Very insightful
I am so fired up! This is my 11th year and I have learned so much. The lessons just open up a desire to learn more and more. Since I’ve been in BSF I just dig and dig until I feel comfortable with my answers. I’ve always studied God’s Word but BSF just seems to stir up a desire to learn as much as my 81 year old mind can absorb! The history of Israel is in real time for what’s occurring in our world today. The Lord is giving us a blueprint to follow along with consequences when we don’t follow.
I so agree with this. We are almost learning in “real time” this year. It has certainly helped to give me perspective on the times and better understanding of Israel’s place in the world. I’m not near 81 yet…but am sure learning a lot more than I have in the past and am extremely thankful for all the resources we have at our disposal with BSF currently.
I am so very thankful for BSF. Thank you to each and every one of you Brothers and Sisters in Christ who work so faithfully to enable people all across America to grow in The Love of Christ🙏♥️through The Study of HIS WORD!
Sincerely, Kathy
Great reminders
Thank you for sharing such great information! As a new GL this year I want to be prepared and as helpful as I can be to these precious ladies.
Gracias. I will definitely put this to practice.
Good information
Thank you Hollie for reminding me what’s important and how to nourish our class members
Thanks for the reminder of the five tips. I needed to hear them.
I enjoyed the above topic of group Bible study and what to think about doing and what to not do! It was very informative and I thank you for putting that out! God bless
Thank you for this information, it really has helped me to be more of a group member.
Thanks for sharing this information. They are very helpful as we lead and be lead by God guidance. Also the reminder about staying on top is and being vulnerable is so important .Thanks😍
Thanks you so much for the tips for better group discussion. This is my first year as a group Leader. Tips on being intentional, focused and vulnerable resonated with me. Also remembering to ask self before you speak is it relevant to the group discussion or am I drawing attention to my self? I loved the scripture you reference in Philippians 4 6-7 when Paul reminded the Philippians to not be anxious for anything but to turn to prayer, and as a result God who transcends all understanding will guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Would you consider translating these to Spanish? I am leading a Spanish group this year and we have many amazing resources – I usually end up translating if I cannot find it already in Spanish. If it is not already available, I will translate for my group. Thank you!
Dear Della, thank you for asking! Translation is not currently available but we are actively working on that! Please join us in praying for our translation team!!
Thank you Hollie Roberts for the 5 tips. I am learning to be vulnerable. Showing the real me and my real life. Showing intentional care for others should extend beyond group meetings. And learning to stay on the topic. Learning to hold back my review and comments. To commit as a group to growth and be able to look back and see how far we’ve come by the end of the year.
Thanks for sharing, the importance on how to prioritize for our study.
Very helpful advice. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks you for sharing, it is very timely.
good and solid advice
Thanks for sharing, very helpful reminders!
Thank you so much for the tips. Personally I have benefited greatly especially on the following tips;
1. Remove distraction – this has helped me to identify certain behaviors and habits that always distracts me from participating meaningfully.
2. Build Community – I have never made a follow up with a member on a prayer request they would have shared during group discussion. I will start doing that now and start caring for others and I ask the Holy Spirit for strength and guidance.
Excellent suggestions. I will implement them. Praise God for knowledge l.
Thank you for this blog. Quite helpful for me as a beginner in BSF.
Thank you for 5 tips for Better Group Conversations. It reminds myself of the importance and to play my part.
I am looking forward to learn more about how share my thoughts and feelings.
Excellent suggestions that I can use right now. Thank you
This was a good read so you will be ready to study Gods word and how it affects us and others.
This blog was great. It will help me be more willing to share.
This was a very excellent intentional focus activity/reminder. Thank you for this thoughtful BLOG.
Good advice for BSF and life
Great suggestions and I will share with NEW group leaders
Great suggestions and I will share with NEW group leaders ❤️
Thank you so very much for these guidelines. Appreciate you taking the time to send them out.
It’s helpful to note in any discussion I should stay on topic share only what is relevant to what is discussed.
Very helpful to me. Will use the suggestions.
This information is very good and especially at the beginning of a new academic year study.
I just read and I think exercising this will be helpful. I know these are the areas I think I need to work on to focus and learn from the Bible and others in my group. Thank you ! Mike
Very insightful and timely advice. Thank you very much for sharing. Much appreciated – always.
Excellent tips for promoting unity/oneness, and personal and interpersonal spiritual growth within groups. I’m excitedly looking forward to this Bible study.
I am excited and looking forward to another year with BSF. This organization is excellent and not only do I look forward to the study but am amazed at the insight the Lord gives through people being vulnerable and sharing. God bless the teachers who give of their time and talents.
Excellent!
Thank you for sharing these healthy nuggets.
I like this quote, “Showing intentional care and other group members should extend beyond the weekly meeting” as sometimes we are so busy with our own lives that we forget about caring for others and committed to them.
Thank you!
I am looking forward to new community .
These 5 points are have transformed my leading a group discussion. Thankyou so much for this sharing. Being vulnerable to one another is a game changer for me.
Praying for a clearer understanding of scripture.
Thanks for these wonderful tips looking forward to an amazing class 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you so much, I have a small group of ladies every Monday in my home in Czech Republic. This is excellent and very true to share with them. I will translate it to czech language and we will try to apply all five points to our study. I am looking forward to be with you all in November, God willing .
Very helpful
Thanks for the super tips!!!
I meet with my group for the first time tomorrow and your e-mail was helpful and encouraging. Thank you!
I like the idea of clearing your mind before the group meeting. That certainly allows one to think and act better with all people. It also open’s the door for the spirit to guide you in a clear way.
These are great tips. Due to my enthusiasm, I tend to talk too much during group discussion time because many group members are often reluctant to be vulnerable and speak up. What is the best way for me to participate without appearing to dominate the discussion?
I’m so glad you are enthusiastic and also vulnerable with us! Many people can’t compose their answer, recall what they wrote, or get the courage to answer as fast as you. (This is extra true if not in their native tongue.). So I would suggest learning to wait longer and longer. Another strategy is to mark the ones that you want to answer the most, and let others answer the other questions. Especially if above doesn’t work, you might also try discussing with your leader so you can know when she wants you to speak up. And following with the BSF principles, use the silence to pray others will answer, have time to do their lessons, share with one another, etc.
Owing to joining with BSF, I don’t know what only the Bible is, but God’s promise to God. He learns to see the living God more. God is good, I thank God for the right to tell others as we say that the witness is
So excited to get back into the word of God. I am praying for a cohesive group that will share their thoughts about our study each week.
Praying for our small group leader as she leads us through each lesson for understanding and knowledge.
Pray each lady will make new friends inside BSF and continue that friendship outside of BSF🙏
Most of all Pray for Gods guidance and growing in His word, Amen🙏
I appreciate the directives, following them will make for a joyful time and time for learning in depth what God wants us individually to know. When I was a first timer in BSF many years ago, there was another directive given. If you did not do the lesson, you could not participate in the discussions. I think that keeps us focused on the subject at hand. BSF is a wonderful learning experience, no one should be allowed to spoil it. God bless y’all.
I love #3. I enjoy so much getting to know my group. These are ladies who can laugh together, because life sometimes gives us lemons, but they can be the ones who’ll pray first about those circumstances. I also love the different ages. Sharing Jesus has no age restrictions.
Wonderful reminders. Thank you!! So grateful for the friendly, God-loving ladies in my small group. Reminder: even if your 1st discussion wasn’t perfect, the Lord is in control and wants to bless you & everone in your group through this year’s study.
So true, Norene! Thanks for sharing that encouragement!
Having been a group facilitator in another Bible study for the past few years, I believe there is much wisdom in these five points. Thank you for sharing them with me!
Thank you!! I have enjoyed the fellowship I have received at BSF.
Thank you for these 5 Tips! #5 Growing together is paramount for spiritual growth. Just as Jesus did with His disciples!
I will try my best to be at every bible study. I will respect others opinion and be open minded. My priorities is first to be a willing participant and seek God’s wisdom in my walk for Him. I am not a talker but I do listen. Sometimes I will give my thoughts. I pray for each one of us who will be participating in this study. May we grow in God’s word together. Peace and love to you all as we go forth in Jesus name.
#3 is so important. Without community we are just an island. I have a dear friend I met 8 or more years ago in BSF. She is about 20 years younger than I am, but God has blessed me with such a sweet friendship.
Thank you for the reminders
Thank you
Great suggestions! Thanks
As a first-year group leader, this is very helpful. Thanks so much.
To STAY ON TOPIC is so valuable as we are distracted in everyday life whether at home at work or in a group outing the distractions are constant. So to give the study of God’s word priority is essential and beneficial.
Looking forward to attending classes again this year!
I am new to BSF.
These are valuable pointers.
Staying focused is difficult sometimes.
I don’t like people in and out of our room. Keeping discussion going when someone drops in to make an announcement. It’s hard to pickup exactly where we were. After all we don’t have long in small groups and we have lots of questions to try and cover.
Thank you very much for all of this information. I’m looking forward to another great year in the Word with BSF.
I look forward to stepping out of my comfort zone and try to get to know others in my group outside of our bsf meeting. Thanks for your encouragement.
In response to Martha’s message, what are P and T people? I’ve never heard of this and I can’t figure it out with the context clues?
I am excited about studying God’s Word. BSF is awesome.
Thank you for these Tips at the beginning of the year. Great focus and direction!
I am starting my 27 year in BSF
The Lord has been directing me every year to return
My question is do we still refrain from texting leaders an group for summer
Thank you for the tips.
Thank you very much! ❤️🙏✝️🙏
I like the idea of building community.It is a journey together, and it takes sacrifice and when we prioritize, God makes it happen
Very good tips. I particularly like point number 5;grow together. It’s good for me as a leader to know I’m growing too and letting the group members know we are walking the same journey,together.
Love the 5 tips. Thank you so much.
I would like to add one more thing onto them that is all those 5 tips can not be done with my own power or strength. I need holy spirit to help me.
Thank you for this information. I hope every BSF participant will receive this, and I hope it will be read and ‘taken to heart.’ It is difficult for a Ps and Ts person to be off topic, when a discussion about the Scripture and the questions enriches everyone and allows others to grow spiritually from another person’s (different) perspective.
God want to talk to us every moment through the Bible reading. Go on and listen Him
Stay on topic was the main focus of my last group on Revelations. We should focus to do the same this year.
Totally agree about staying on topic, sharing with each other what we have learned in each lesson❤️
Great support material of group Leaders.
Tips were helpful
I feel point #2 is very important. Everyone’s faith journey is different. We need to be reminded that we all face the same kind of struggles and that we are never alone.
I loved the “Discussion “ article. The 5 points are great reminders of good leadership. Starting a new year with some new ladies in my group, I want them to feel welcome and willing to share their thoughts each week. I will review points before I begin my meeting each week.
Great initiative. It will be good if all the Group Leaders will go through these 5 tips to all members from time to time, especially when some members tend to do “mini lectures” to others and / or argue with other members.
Thank you for the helpful tips. I am so sure this would help me as I study with my sisters God handpicked for me for this study. May the Lord help me to intentionally make sure I build a community by attending every discussion meeting and learn from others and be there for my
sisters’..praying with them.
very well presented on the prepration of a study ,in fact its a general SOP for all discussion
I’ve been in 4 different groups so far , & I personally feel a sense of camaraderie when members feel free to address each other by their first names rather than a “formal mam” address , also a need to respect each others views rather than negating or judging another member , of course this calls for a lot of respect for & sensitivity to others in the group
good reminders
helpful
God and helpful
These tips are all very useful, I am sure, to any group leader. That’s because a group leader maybe relatively new in the discussion facilitation function, or another leader may have been there doing this for more than a decade, or even more, and considers herself functionally “seasoned”, and there’ll also be lots of leaders who stand in-between these two ends of the spectrum. However, these tips will serve as very good reminders whether one is a newbie or not.
For me, and I have been doing GL function for 18 years, I find that Tips #2 and #5 resonate with me so well because I want to have my members feel (and see for themselves) that I am just like most of them — that I am learning with them, and we are learning from one another, and most importantly, we are all growing every single week of the lesson. I thrive and delight in “light bulb moments” whenever we realize something or an insight just pops up from the lecture, or from the notes, or even right there during the Q&A discussion.
Thank you for this blog. A useful and timely reminder.
A great, short and succinct blog post with such sage advice.
Hello, Bible studies like BSF help me in staying in God’s word on a regular basis. Discipline should be a part of growing in your faith to the Lord. It can be challenging but His presence is there to help you, encourage you, convict you and love you. Until I see Him face to face, His word give me a sense of purpose and relevance in what I encounter everyday. I would like to worship and lift Him up.
A good thing for us to remember, is that we are all sinners & therefore it is inappropriate for True Believers to assess each other’s situations in light of our own moral standing with God. The only reason we are even in a BSF group is because God has orchestrated it, not because of anything we have done. So let’s be courageous and share our joys & sorrows in order to grow into being Christlike. BSF groups are brilliant for causing us to think!
Hi Liza,
Once we realize how wreathed we are, we come to realize we are not alone with those around us. This in encouraging because God has got us and will never let us go.
Life is short and letting someone realize that God loves them is really all that matters.
I want to thank you for bringing these points of how everyone should conduct themselves in a small group. I hope to attend one (small study group) from a leader in our church and I pray I can put them into practice once I start.
May God help me to grow out of judgemental thinking and grow into loving Him with all my heart, soul, strength and mind.
Jesus and creator God truly love you Bev. Rely and ponder on what he says in his Word. Deut 6 – take it to heart.
Thank you very much. This will be my first year as a group leader. Your blog was very succinct and helpful
Praying you have a wonderful year, Gloria. Thank you for your service!
I am so glad you sent this! I have been guilty. Seeing this in writing makes an impact more than the spoken word. Thank you!
All five points are very pertinent.
Much depends upon the leader’s relationship with the group members outside the class too. Messaging them individually, asking how the family is doing, enquiring about any difficulty shared by the member etc are so crucial. Especially checking if everything is alright if the member does not attend, helps a great deal.
I thank our Lord for giving me the desired love and care for my group members. Pray for all our leaders!
Actually have a few questions.
How to deal with dominating members in the group. It’s hard to share freely when someone or a few kept sharing in a group of 18 members.
Feel sorry for the zoom meeting leader one or two others wanting to share just type comments in the chat. I just listened it’s ok but felt left out. Without putting pressure on the leader we just leave class at the end without commenting to her. It’s not easy.
Hi Gigi. Thanks for sharing your heart. Please send a quick note to your leader and let her know your concerns. It is hard but it would be sad if you and others left because you weren’t getting enough time to share. Group leaders love to get feedback on how their members are doing.
It might be best to let the leader know how you feel. Maybe that way she could take control of the meeting and keep this from happening every week
As an OGL reading this, it breaks my heart a bit that you feel unable to share because of this. All groups have this issue until the OGL sets the boundaries for group discussion. In my opinion, another reason its important for you to reach out to your OGL is because its hard to read the room sometimes. It can appear that the quiet members don’t want to talk. That you are content to listen, and so the OGL might allow the dominant members to talk a lot to keep the discussion going. If an OGL finds out that there are members that felt left out of the discussion, they will work to change the dynamic so all feel welcome, loved, and participatory. Please, tell your OGL! We all need to grow!
Oh! This is very helpful advice to me as B.S.F. Group Leader. This is my second year as a Group Leader. Thank you for your input into my ministry here.
Thank you for these excellent reminders. They are definitely on point.
One of the best things in my life was to join BSF!
It is very well structured, has good hosts who know how to lead a group and are competent and kind.
I thank God for giving me this opportunity in my late years and I pray to God to continue to bless BSF and all who make this work of God accessible to so many believers. God bless also all the students of now, past and future!
Thank you for the tips on how to do a group discussion. It was very helpful.
just i have read these tips. Very useful tips for my study which i always keep on my mind
This is so helpful. Thank you for the blogs- they are always helping me improve as a GL! And a follower of Christ in general!
Thanks for the tips there very helpful
I enjoyed what you had to say. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this matter. It was very helpful.
Wonderful ideas! I will definitely put them to practice!! Thanks
Thank you for this!!! I am feeling overwhelmed and a little stressed! It’s been about 15 years since I’ve done this….but I’ll definitely rise to the occasion!!!
Thanks!!
Your “Better Group Conversations” article was on point and is a
reminder of how to navigate the group meeting time.
Thank you.
Oh I needed this post! Deeply edifying! Thank you so much!!
“Hebrews reminds us, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:24-25).”
I have really enjoy these tips. Thank you all you guys do.
This is a great article…good reminder for me too! Thank you!
I am so grateful too have opportunity to study with you.please send me all the information I need. How will I no. When to join and how my phone is 803_510_4164 Thank you.
Hi Lettie,
I see your area code is (803)…where is South Carolina are you from? If you are anywhere near Lancaster, SC, we’d love to have you! You can click on here to register:
https://join.bsfinternational.org/class/6089/
Thx!
Thanks for the blog! I find it very useful and will implement these during my discussion time with my group!
Is it okay to ask a question, maybe the answer may be an obvious one for many, but I tend to contemplate too much sometimes on details.
i have been a member for 12 years and absolutely love BSF.
I’m new to BSF and I have asked questions of the group before. In fact, the answers were very enlightening and helped me a great deal.
The advice is very useful, I am going to share it with my bible study group at church. If all members follow that we can all grow spiritually together.
Thank you for the TIPS, I find them to be helpful during my studies.
I’m somewhat introverted and would like to be more vocal this year at the meeting on Monday’s.
I enjoyed the first session, got all fired up and ready to go! Thank you for this opportunity!
Am happy to join the platform this year and study Revelation.
Grateful for the encouragement and helpful information!
Thank you for these helpful tips.
Am glad to join this platform.
Eager to read more inspiring articles.
God bless the team.
Thank you so much for the 5 tips, they will be very helpul.
Thanks for the tips I am sure they will help me in my Bible Study, so glad to be a part of this group, looking forward of learning more together and growing in the knowledge of God’s word.
Thank you for this article. The five suggestions are simple, and can easily be put into action. I will jot them down along-side my question and answer page..sure appreciate this!
Thank you for the 5 tips. They are useful and relevant.
I love to study Revelation because I know this book will give me in-depth meaning of what it means to repent and walk with God as the end is near and I don’t want to be left alone together with my family when Jesus comes.
Thanks for the wonderful, thoughtful ideas. Looking forward to our blessed season together.
Thank you very much. This is a great favor. God bless you.
Thank you for these.
Being vulnerable is difficult, especially when I’m nervous that someone is going to cut me off when speaking and try to “fix” me or offer unsolicited advice. Sometimes we just need a sounding board of empathetic, compassionate listeners when we are answering the personal questions. The Holy Spirit is the cure giver.
Thanks for even your own vulnerability in sharing this comment, Michelle! Useful for all in being more compassionate genuine listeners
Michelle, Ditto Kelly’s response A very helpful reminder of the Truth. Thank you. We don’t need to ‘fix’ when others are sharing in a vulnerable way, but instead offer prayer and rely on God’s Holy Spirit. Thank you for sharing Michelle!
These five steps for group study are very helpful to grow together as a healthy group.
Blessings
Great Points to staying focused & on track
Thank you so much for these very helpful tips.
I like that part especially about jotting down what’s on your mind before study begins. That way you know you won’t forget and you can pick it back up later. It’s almost like centering yourself and prioritizing your given time.
Very helpful tips, thank you very much, I look forward to being more vulnerable.
All wonderful points to remember…and therein lies my problem. Remembering.
These tips will help me as a new GL. It’s just what I needed. Thank you
Great tool to keep us centered in the Lesson and making Jesus the main thing and the plain thing we are to be focused on.
Very helpful. Makes me realize the fruitful benefits and looks forward to attending BSF always.
Thank you for these tips.
The 5 tips are very helpful. Many times fear holds me back from sharing.
This is great information as I have done these things since 2004 and they work excellently. Thank you for this information. God is really in control of all that we do so I trust him to assist me in my Bible Study each and every week. Thank you again.
to write out all my concerns & distractions is so amazing and refreshing thank you- I feel so much lighter and positive
Thank you for these 5 tips. I am praying that God will guide me and that I am mind full of these tips.
I love these comments/suggestions. When considering if I should share, I try to use these two reminders: WAIT — Why Am I Talking? And am I being mindful as a “balanced shar-er”? I can’t wait to see where Revelation takes me this coming year.
Thanks for sharing these valuable tips.
Excellent! “balanced share-er”
Lesson 1. Fifth day, Question 11
Gave me such Peace (His Peace)
when answering it.
5 tips are just what I needed.
Very helpful!!
These are very helpful tiips for both group leader and group members . Thanks for sharing, with more expectations.
Thank you for these valuable tips. Showing up every week is important, and so also is listening and contributing to the conversation by coming prepared.
Excellent Guidelines for all BSFers to go by.
Thank You!
Very thankful for the 5 tips ♥️🙏🙏
Very thankful for the 5 tips♥️🙏♥️
great & useful tips!! cant wait to share with other members & put them into practice!
Very informative and well guided
I particularly appreciated the last paragraph of #4 Stay on topic. Easy to run astray when somebody says something that reminds you of a story that may not necessarily be relevant and will just take up valuable time from the group.
BSF has taught me to discern the truth in everything. And in today’s world, what is more important than that? I’ve done all the other studies but the Revelation study is new for me. I am praying for myself and others to have a wonderful year of growing in God’s word!
Good points to remember as we enter into this challenging study together. I was hit on the mark by the suggestion that sometimes we talk to draw attention to ourselves. What I say may be relavent to the topic, but some thoughts just don’t have to be shared.
Good points raised here!
It is so important that we all abide to the guidelines in order to have fruitful discussion.
I feel blessed to be part of this community and these tips are great to be able to connect with my group.
Thank you for making us better leaders. I appreciate the emails and save them for future reference.
These are excellent suggestions I can improve on easily see ways
this will enrich our spiritual growth as we study and share together as a group.
I love the 5 tips, it is really nice to have a christian community and to grow together in God’s word, being on the same page, this is appreciated
These 5 tips are very practical and helpful. Thank you for these thoughtful insights—they’re truly beneficial for anyone looking to deepen their group study experience!
This is very important and helpful to me and my group.
Thank you for these relevant tips. we can feel overwhelmed at times when the day starts off with challenges . I have learned to whisper a prayer in the moment and allow the Lord to lead me into careful thoughts and meditations.
Thanks so much for these 5 tips. I’ll certainly use them to better my group conversations
I love Marie’s comment here! Every word is beautiful, full of meaning, and oh so true!
And so very helpful!
Thank you, Marie!
I love the ,5 steps.
Five Tips for better groups. Thank you for the article. You were right on target with the information. Hoping it will be put to practice.
Thank you for these tips! I hope everyone reads them. #4 in my former local BSF class drove me to BSF online International. I love the diversity and that there are zero political discussions. I cared very much for my group members in the local class, but the political discussions had no place and felt divisive. It probably was not intentional on their part, but it took away from the experience of growing in Jesus, in my case at least.
It is very helpful also remind me to concentrate to study Revelation this year. Thank you very much.
I had to miss the first meeting since I had
Covid. I haven’t heard from the leader of my group.
I’m working on the lesson for this coming week and am
finally Covid negative! Whew!
It was good to read that it is okay to share briefly an answer of mine in group time once in a while if it’ll contribute to the building and bonding of the group. 🙂
Thank you for this information and the outline, it helps to alleviate some of the stress I feel when speaking before others.
These five helpful ways to be in group with others is so good and I thank you.. so was everything here in this e-mail. I am so excited to discover in God’s Word through BSF.
Excellent suggestions for group Bible studies! Th group leaders may need to remind us through the year of these guidelines!
Thanks for the leadership in BSF for all of us to grow in the Word as we study, discuss and pray!
I wish I could get the lecture and questions
Hi Lucille, I’m so glad you are interested in studying Revelation with BSF this year! The lecture and questions are available for currently enrolled class members. I see that you’re currently inactive in a class, if you’d like to rejoin that class please use this link and select “Request to Join.” Someone from the class will reach out to you about being placed in a group.
Blessings, Meredith
BSF 2024-2025
Thank you for these reminders, it will be helpful individually and collectively to be mindful of them. I LOVE BSF, the thought provoking notes and lectures and the questions that help me dig deeper into what God is teaching me and how I can apply that in my life. My very favorite part of BSF is the discussion group and hearing what God is teaching to others. I’m always enriched and fascinated by that. The time for discussion is so limited and I selfishly want that time to be fully utilized with sharing enlightenment others have received. So staying on topic, focusing on God, eliminating distractions, being vulnerable in sharing knowledge that led to personal revelation, allowing space for others to speak…are all great for encouraging the best discussions. I value those discussions, they are my fellowship and my reinforcement, so I want to hoard that time and not waste a minute of it.
I’ve been in BSF a long time and remember all the rules, many of which have been let go. I can see reasons for both keeping some and letting some go, but either way it’s all good, coming together with a heart for God and learning more about the depth of His love, His ways, what He wants from us, and how that plays out in our lives. Doing ALL the BSF steps and committing to them is what really drives home the lessons and makes the very best discussions. Thank you to all the people who make BSF possible and so good!
This is the beginning of my sixth year with BSF. I wanted to know if taking prayer requests is optional. it seems like some teachers do and some teachers don’t, but I always find it a very special part of BSF. Thk u!
I’ve never heard of its being optional. There are different ways that group leaders may do this. If you’ve asked your group leader and don’t get an answer of “Yes, we will do prayer requests,” please talk to your teaching leader. The group leader may not have been trained yet about this.
Excellent ideas! Especially #3. I must listen for that opportunity.
Times change, we people develop and hopefully, mature.
Our Father, through BSF, has spread His Truth and His Word over these 65 years. One way is in giving His followers the BSF Blog.
When a group is vulnerable with each other it draws together much quicker. As a leader I am reminded to set this example.
Good job Dale. It seems that it is harder for men to speak up or be vulnerable that women. I know that is the case for me.
These are great suggestions for discussion groups. ALL group leaders should share these tips with their groups!
That’s an excellent idea!
Every week after the discussion the leader need to explain in brief about that days study.
God Bless
Thanks for giving more insight to Bible Study and being true to group. Knowing and understanding is very important to me. It is great to study with children of the most high God.
I am just wondering about the members that seem to dominate the discussion time. There are two or three in my group that seem to share the most. Also, could we use the raise hand feature…our group does not use the Zoom hand but just raises a hand and it is not always seen.
I do not mean to be negative…I love BSF.
Hi Gloria. Thanks for sharing this issue. This seems to be a common problem in a lot of groups. Some ladies can be so passionate about the discussion that they exclude others unintentionally. The quieter ladies are not so forthcoming with their responses or just need a little time to ponder on the question. I used to be like the former until I became a group leader myself, and saw the importance of getting as many persons involved as possible.
Please speak to your leader. They love to hear your feedback. And no, you are not been negative.
I have often found group leaders to be fearful of silence. As a consequence, they leave no time for members to think, to consider, to identify their position or response. Waiting through silences, however, is often rewarded with unexpected insights from unexpected places.
Thank you for this I formation. It is very helpfful!
We can do so much for our group by just sharing from our heart’s and asking our Lord to help us in our time together. Prayer is.such an incredible first step.
I absolutely love the 5 tips, especially the one about being vulnerable. A group will bond quickly if they let their guard down and decide to trust each other.
Thank for sharing this info with us. I have bonded with so many in my group & love the new friendships I have made. We trust each other when we share private prayer requests. We enjoy seeing each other both in class & out in the public. Blessings to all!
Great tips for group leaders. I’ll keep them handy each week as I prepare for my discussion group.
Very good points, because some people want to share personal conversation that is not related to the question.
I love the supporting scriptures that are so applicable to these steps. I love how Phil 4:6-7 reminds us to remove distractions and focus on God because that focus on God during class may allow me to hear His wisdom for whatever distraction was trying to steal me away from God working in my life.
This was a very helpful article. I hope the new members in our group read this.
Times change, we people develop and hopefully, mature.
Our Father, through BSF, has spread His Truth and His Word over these 65 years. One way is in giving His followers the BSF Blog.
Enjoyed the 5 steps for group discussion. Very helpful, but what are some techniques to draw the quiet ones into the group discussion.
When I lead, I found out women would be more equipped to speak on a question when we would do a quick “pair share” in our “getting ready time” a few minutes prior to class. I would have them share a little bit about their favorite question with another member. That would help them to both to review and feel good enough to answer at least 1 question. Very quickly they all were sharing and bouncing off of each other! Any “pair share” brings most women out of their shell not to mention it tends to bond them together more.
I love pair sharing. It does help.
I love BSF, as an older member I have difficult hearing when we pair share as others have confided in me who are older. It’s just a room full of noise.
An eye opener and so encouraging.
Thanks for sharing
Very helpful. Will use the wording here in my group to remind them what our true goal is. Thank you BSF!
This is very enlightening. Thanks for sharing
I am reminded that the most important thing is for a person to know Christ. The Lord has given me 2nd chance to put my faith into action. All to the glory of God.
IT IS MY FIRST TIME TO LEAD A BIBLE STUDY GROUP DISPITE THE FACT THAT I HAVE BEEN A LEADER IN OTHER GROUPS. I NEED TO LEARN TO BE FOCUSED
One simple trick I used in my time as a leader was to wear my watch on the inside of my wrist, so I could easily monitor time (to move things along, etc) discreetly.
Good idea!
Very helpful tips for encouraging better group interaction and discussions, and building intergroup relationships.
Thank you
This information is really good and thought provoking! I will encourage the ladies in my small group to read it.
What a joy to begin the Fall of 2023 with the study of John. Getting to meet new friends and learn together as we learn to grow more like Jesus
It’s really helpful to build a group with love.
I used to encourage my ladies to review their Lessons on Sunday nights and choose one or two questions on each page to share with the Group on Monday night. God was so good to me. I never had a night where all the ladies chose the same two questions, and I was left with a room full of silence
The love when leaders encourage to choose a meaningful question ahead of time.
It helps the whole group not just be looking for the correct answer but an answer on how God spoke through the Scriptures.
I have found more of the group shares and the scriptures come alive.
Really helpful suggestions. Thanks. I’m looking forward to getting started this week. So much to learn about God’s Word and our group members.
I long to join the new group to learn more about the word of God.
I like the idea of writing down likely distractions before going into session. I will do that and rely on God to be focused and to show up for every session.
Looking forward to a great year and heeding to the call of loving my group members.
I am 82 years old and I can honestly say BSF has had the greatest impact on my spiritual journey. In fact I do not believe I knew the Lord in a personal relationship before getting into the Word of God through BSF. Way back in the late 80s. I love the precious ladies I have met and every leader is unique in their walk with the Lord and their leadership style. I’ve taken John before and can’t wait to see what God has for me this year in BSF. Thank you Lord for the sweet friend many years ago that invited me to this life changing Bible Study. She is with you now. Praise God
Great steps! These recommendations truly help a discussion group get the most from the study and give their best to one another! Thx!
I am going to enjoy my bsf discussion and connecting with people who want to know God and understand His words! Praying for others and sharing the love of God is always powerful!
Thank you, Lord, for leading me back to BSF leadership as a Group Leader. BSF has had an impactful role in my life. It is my prayer to be a light in the life of the men of my group. Thank you for these helpful tips for better group conversations. I ask that the Lord through the power of the Holy Spirit remove all barriers and distractions and as a result the peace of God will through His son will transcend every stronghold that binds us this year.
Excellent suggestions. Thank you.
I am expecting to grow spiritually along with other members of my group.
To implement these 5 tips, so as to learn from others during the division class class discussion
I’ve looked forward to this new year in JOHN with my new BSF group. The summer occupied me and pulled me away more than the last 9 years in BSF as I see MANY MANY changes on Earth. BSF helps me to stay focused on learning the Bible which keeps me calm. I pray for the Holy Spirit to guide me through God’s Plan in the name of Jesus.
This year I have a different age group that I am leading, I feel a tad bit challanged by the change, but I am aiming to rely on God’s power and strength to guide me through it.
I love leading an international group online. We have grown to love one another and pray for one another. Women seem to be more open to authenticity and vulnerability online, as they share their dreams, as well as their struggles. My group is from all over the world. We have grown in our desire to seek to know our God more intimately. I have learned much from their insights in Scripture. It is such a great privilege to guide them in the wonderful materials, and gifted notes and lectures that BSF gives us, as we seek more knowledge of our Lord and Savior. Thank you Lord. Thank you BSF.
Gladys
I look forward to spending my time with this BSF group. I look to learning new way of studying the Bible.
I hope to begin a new season.
This is such a powerful guidance as we move on learning the Word of God together with members of our group.It will help me to appreciate others regardless of our different personalities.
Thank you good guidance. I love my small group sessions and I am looking forward to having my iron sharpened again this year. May God bless all of you that make this possible, and all of us that participate! Thank you Jesus for all you are going to do inside our hearts this year! Amen
I share Joanne’s frustration. I too am praying for patience! I enjoy hearing from everyone in the group. We learn from each other, and no-one should dominate the conversation. I pray that our leader this year can keep the conversation moving in a respectful and fair pace.
Good evening I’m looking forward to being in the class, I don’t talk that much, but I’m praying that I open up a little more this year, I started last year at the end of Jeremiah, I am excited 🙏 for me
I’m praying about being more patient!! I’m the kind of person who likes to stay on track. It does seem that there is always, at least, one person in the group who dominates the conversation like they know more then the rest of us…they try to lead, and then off down the rabbit trail they go and totally left the scope of the question. So frustrating that makes me want to quit the group. It is difficult for the leader too because she literally cannot get a word in edgewise! Last year the leader suggested that we skip a question because we were running a little behind (due to the talkative person) and we should move on. As our group finished up that person actually said, “I really want to go back to the question we skipped” and started talking about it…..
It really does feel hopeless sometimes.
I’m seriously repenting and asking for patience.
I am looking forward to another year of wonderful Bible study but having difficulty returning to my previous group because of some personality differences. After much prayer God showed me that I needed to reach out to and show love in this situation and leave the results to Him. I’m excited to being a part of the results.
This is my very first BSF class. I am looking forward to meeting all of you, and I am really looking forward to studying the Gospel of John with you.
Great reminder of why we are in BSF! Deepening our walk of Faith, fellowship and most importantly knowing who GOD is and growing our relationship with His Son, Jesus Christ! Thanks for all you do, for His Glory!! 🙂
I am so EXCITED! I can’t wait to start this study. THANKS FOR THE Tips.
Very useful and helpful guidance for group leadrs and members relationship. Thanks.
Looking forward to our group this year.
I will be attending the BSF group in KS. What time does it start?
Please contact your local class/leader for more information. If you need their information, you can find it by searching for your class on join.bsfinternational.org and clicking “more info” and “contact.” Thanks!
Love BSF, my appreciation to all leaders in BSF. Looking forward to start the Lesson in September.
I love BSF and have been a leader for over 15 years. But one thing BSF is lacking is allowing group members to get to know one another. We need to be able to share what is happening in our families, jobs, etc. so that we can connect with one another. I do not even know what jobs some of the other leaders have because we never share our personal lives outside of “what God is doing in our lives.” I do think that is wonderful, but there are other things that help us to get to know one another and look forward to seeing each other each week. Becausse my group has been together for a few years, we love each other and visit outside class. We are prayer warriors for each other. I greatly appreciate that.
Donna – such a great thought – have you discussed with your Teaching Leader? Praying for your class and your group! Grateful for your heart and the way you love the women in your class
I would agree that we need to have time to get to know those in our group. We have no time for this and it is a hinderance to real fellowship. I our group, it leads to only a few people responding to questions.
I believe that such a community is biblically to be build within a local church. However, in reality, not so many in one local community are interested in regular Bible study like what BSF discussion group does, at least here in Japan, as you have some Japanese speaking groups as well. So I am struggling to decide how to serve the local church which does not send any member, while spending time on BSF, more of which should be spent on building up the local church I belong to. I suppose you do not have any decisive answer to this unless you have biblical scholars.
Keiko, BSF is such a great training center that over the years I have seen many who attend BSF go on to lead, teach, and serve – well – in their churches. Studying with BSF can be a season of learning followed by a season of leading others. What a great group to be a part of. Each of us need to prayerfully consider where God is calling us for this year. To study with BSF or to study in our church. Did you know BSF encourages its leaders to also serve at their church? God enables both. Praying you recognize the Holy Spirit’s guidance.
It would be helpful if leaders gave out group members’ contact information so we can build relationships/encourage others outside of group time.
Dear Linda – this is a great question for your group leader! Each group is unique. Your heart to connect with other members is so encouraging – I am praying all BSF members will feel this same desire. Thank you for asking!
These are all good suggestions, looking forward to a great group discussion of John this year.
These are great tips and good reminders
Looking so forward to a beautiful study of a familiar and rich new testament book. Jon is one of my favorites. I anticipate God showing up in new and mighty way.
Very helpful tips especially remove distractions. I will keep them in mind.
The groups I have been the closest with are those who everyone shares their thoughts and opinions. No one dominates the conversation. Sharing truly gives a strong bond. I trust everyone reads they key points.
Thank you for the helpful hints!
The important attitude I receive is this fact of accepting to be vulnerable. Thank you! I think I should to humiliate myself before God, I exhort all fellow Christians to do so. Thanks again.
Please can I ask – do all registered class members receive these emails?
They do!
Thank you for the guidance!
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I love this article, it is right on cue, enjoyed reading and being reminded, thank you.
THANK YOU FOR THIS GUIDENCE.
These are great, thank you. I might add one more and that’s about answering questions: while a pause (after the leader asks the question) may feel like it needs to be filled, perhaps resisting answering if you’ve already recently done so would give the shyer ladies a chance to speak up.
This is a great suggestion.
Great comments, I would add:
Be Present and Listen- Acknowledge others and try to understand their perspective and….
Pray : Sharing each other’s burdens builds bonds, take time to Pray about group Shares, Pains , Struggles and needs. I personally shared my 8 month old grand-daughter was diagnosed with leukemia ,the men offered to pray, at the end of the prayer, I opened my eyes to discover 12 men on their knees. I will never forget it.
Avoid having side conversations with others while attending the group meeting. Also, welcome pertinent biblical background information provided by group members. And, never be afraid to share relevant comments. Remember, God is in control!
Recommend silencing your phones or placing them in vibrate mode during class to remove that distraction for yourself & others
Thank you BSF! I continue to grow spiritually!
Thank you for the well worded reminders
God blessings, and thank you for these helpful suggestions. They are very helpful to me!🫶🏼🙏🙂
Thank you for these important reminders. BSF Groups is all about taking time to develop our spiritual lives. It’s easy for me to fall into a habit of rushing through my lesson and trying to cram group time into a busy schedule. We all benefit so much more when ladies attend small group.
Appreciate these tips for a more meaningful, healthy group dynamic this year.
Thank you for these great suggestions. 2022 was my first year in BSF and it has truly been life changing. I am looking forward to what God is going to do this year.
both of these articles are great. I cannot thank you enough for sending them at the beginning of the year. They are terrific to have in our tool box.
Georgia
Thanks for the great reminder as we begin our new year. They are all right on point.
Being in BSF for the last 7 years has been a great joy in my life. I feel I’ve grown stronger in my faith, have been better equipped to share Christ, and have met many wonderful Christian friends. I appreciate these tips for stronger group conversations…..it helps me to reflect on my purpose and personal growth in BSF as well as supporting those around me to do the same.
I love this, but last year we had the best group. I have been in BSF for almost 20 years and I have never had a group like I did last year. We became a family, we stay in touch, we see each other, we pray for each other. We love each other. And it makes me sad to have to have another group, I know its the rules of BSF but when a group of women like us, we have been through alot together last year and we would love, love to stay together this year. We have a bond that is so full of Jesus and we are all so broken and we need each other. Thank you for your time. Have a blessed day.
Thank you! This is always good advice.
I am very excited to be starting my fourth year in BSF! The study groups have been very helpful emotionally and spiritually and I thank God for bringing me to you.
I truly feel that you gave good direction for us to follow in strengthening not just the fellowship within the group but the trust to share our truths given to us by the Holy Spirit in our study time or pray without intimidation.
I especially appreciate the suggestion for decluttering our mind. What a beautiful exercise to free the space in our minds to be filled by the Holy Spirits guidance. An activity not just for BSF but for our lives to give a time of peace and meditation on God’s direction for us.
Thank you.
Thank you for the tip!
I was relieved to see the guideline about holding back giving a review of a certain movie or series. I am hopeful that we will stay focused on the true word of God and not a movie version. I’m sure Jesus will appreciate that also.
Thank you for listing these tips. Maybe even post them in a lecture throughout the year. That way they can be brought to the forefront of our memory.
It is helpful if group members are instructed to think ahead of the gathering what one thing they learned that they think would be most helpful for the group to hear and to be ready to share that. Also it helps to remind them to only share one or two answers or comments until after most of the other group members have had a chance to share.
So very good thank you
I was determining in my mind not to be be vulnerable, or honest to build those cultural walls of trying to be un seen.
So funny I would open this today.
Again Thank you. I am so honored and blessed to be a part of BSF and praying for our this year study.
Helpful tips! Thank you!
I love the ideas about removing distractions! This can be used in most areas of life but will be very helpful in preparing for each Study. Thank you.
Being relatively a new member of BSF, I find these guidelines very informative to keep the Group discussions effective and meaningful. I would like to implement it during the study of Gospel of John. Thank you for posting the 5 tips.
The comment….’is this relevant to the group discussion’ should be on the top of the list!
I think it is very important in view of our time restraints.
Great points that need restated every year!
As a discussion leader, these reminders, guides, are so helpful for keeping the group on track, and keeping focus on what is important and primary, what the Holy Spirit wants us to learn! Excellent reminders, thank you!
Yes stay on topic not the group to take up time discussing your social problems
Thank you so much for the helpful tips!
This is so enlightening to a great start for this year’s BSF. I am looking forward to it, to grow spiritually and to be more caring about others and their growth. To have friends, sisters in Christ is so important to me.
Thank you for these words.
quite educating points to follow.
Being fully committed and fully engaged helps grow your relationship with Jesus! Thank you BSF for my time to grow!
This is my 5th year. One thing I noticed in past years is there just isn’t enough time to go through all the questions. In my humble opinion… less questions which translate into more discussion time on the true meaning of each lesson. We don’t need 15, 16 questions to get the point across each week.
I agree
time restraints are limiting
Mike, I love your comment. I hope all group leaders see this and understand why BSF promotes the three-question method when discussing the lesson. Those 16 questions are great for the initial personal study, especially for those new to Scripture study. However, many people agree with you, Mike – less questions at discussion group allow for deeper discussion.
Hello Mike
I hear you. Your concerns are what make you a good leader. I once had the same issues you have now, but God helped me through our TL. I hope my sharing will help.
I believe the questions in our study guide are both for personal meditation and group discussions. After your personal study, you then transition into leadership mode. The beauty of BSF is that each group is unique. What you need to do after praying is to select questions that will enable you to keep the focus on God but also grow the unique group God gives you to lead each year. Otherwise, you are in danger of turning Bsf meetings into exam centres if you attempt to answer every question. Focus on selecting questions that will enable you to have meaningful discussion with your team. You may need to paraphrase or combine questions.
In addition to prayer (which is vital since we are studying God’s own manuscript), try reaching out to your team during the week to discover what aspects they find challenging or inspiring. Include some of these issues if necessary.
I am now a CL, so i meet my students with no prior discussion. Prayer and deliberate preparation work for me. Some days are harder than others.
Depend on the God who called you to this ministry. He will equip.
Thank you so much for these insightful tips! I particularly liked this in #4: Before you speak, think, “Is this relevant to the group discussion? Am I talking to draw attention to myself or to share for the good of the group?” I am sometimes guilty of speaking to break a silent stretch that feels uncomfortable, so this tip will be really helpful for me. I am looking forward to studying John for the second time and can’t wait to see what new things the Holy Spirit will reveal this year. May we all be blessed as we study God’s Word together!
I appreciate the thought put into these suggestions. And I appreciate the group leaders accepting the task and being trained in managing the group discussions. As an introvert I often leave group with personal insights unsaid bc others jump in and answer every question and work in much personal information that I hold back on sharing due to time. It is difficult to balance focus on the study material and sharing personal needs to receive encouragement and support. What is the best way to offer encouragement and support without turning group time into a support group setting focused on one person who shares it all?
How do we acknowledge a struggling group member while attending to the study discussion? We don’t want to create an environment where we all wear masks but need clear group guidelines about group time.
Agreed. I think it’s the group leader’s responsibility to send out guidelines for discussion in advance and gently remind or encourage others to participate. I had one year a leader who would call on individuals to answer questions. This kept us alert and gave all folks in the group the opportunity to speak if they chose to.
BSF Leaders have all been trained to pray and offer guidance to each member.
My last leader would come 20 minutes early and stay behind 20 minutes in order to address questions and personal issues. Members were invited to join.
This allowed the full hour that is allotted to focus on covering the plethora of questions that are in each lesson. It is good to share personal issues before/after or in a prayer request.
Thank you so much for reminding us.BSF teaches us thus can happen but your testimony is truly important. I am an introvert and a group discussion leader.
A good friend in PA asked to her groups meeting and I started BSF Fall of 2022. I am in TX so there was a little time difference. I enjoyed the teaching and fellowship so much. But I needed to switch groups mid-term to a local group with a time that was easier for me to make. I have been so blessed since my very first BSF meeting. I had reservations switching groups but was so welcomed into the new group and felt like I made the best choice for me. I tell everyone I know about BSF and how blessed I have been being a part of this community. My new sisters have listened to me talk about my earlier sisters with open hearts. I am praying that my daughter joins an international group for her studies and I’m praying for my husband to join a group either local or an international group. I have the BEST leadership ever! I am sure everyone says the same thing, but really Leanne is the dearest as I find myself being mentored with our every conversation. What a true blessing BSF has been. From the group study to the admin lectures.
Thank you for the tips they are a good reminder. I am going to use them also in my conversations with others.
I needed this advice to stay focused and not get off topic! I am really looking forward to studying John with other women.
Joining the BSF Bible study group is a blessing from God. It helped me get to know Him more.
Joining the BSF Bible study group is a blessing from God. It helped me get to know Him more.
We witnessed the need (and skillful execution) for a strong group leader and admin leader to speak with a group of women who insisted on diverting from biblical truths to their own church doctrines. We’ll hand,es!!
I have been in BSF off and on since the 80’s. I have been a children’s leader, administrator a d group leader at various times. Last year, I really struggled with the way our discussion was done. We sat at large round tables put together. This separated us and sometimes made it hard to hear. I so missed our closed circle where we used to take out the extra chair for optimal intimacy. This year, I switched to a different venue and my leader said we will be in that circle. So glad. Some of those BSF “guidelines” that are now considered “burdensome”, had a critical purpose that set BSF apart from other Bible studies, and shouldn’t be discarded.
I love BSF and being guided to study the Bible. Thank you all for this ministry.
A critique I have is the frequent reminder to “Keep conversations confidential”. Altho discretion is always a good idea, emphasizing confidentiality leads to moral dilemmas with our spouse. We must either conceal important BSF conversations from our spouse or break this rule.
I’d recommend it be changed to “use considerable discretion in sharing outside the group”. Ultimately no rule is a guarantee anyway and it must depend on our discretion.
But thanks again for BSF!
So that I can put aside all personal
problems or thoughts before
going into my group, I use my driving time to pray and give all to God. I want to be intentional about
getting to know personally members of my group and follow
up with their prayer request.
That’s a great idea Polly!
Thank you for this! Group leaders and members need to know let the members share. It is not the leaders responsibility to fill awkward silences with their answers, comments etc. Group leaders are to facilitate not educate. Bring to prayer what others are going through and don’t feel the need to resolve members problems.
I commit to be faithful in bible study and pray. I’m looking forward to the study of John. I’m sooo thankful to God for BSF.
The tips are great reminders on how to encourage rich discussion during group. With so many distractions in our lives, thank you for sharing a practical way to remove those distractions and focus on God and each other.
Yea! Y’all do a great job. Thank you for all you do.
I love #4!! There are times that we grow so close with one another, we forget that we aren’t a therapy or support group. We need to be brought back into focus.
I love tip number#4..Staying on the topic and getting really involved with the study is very important!I have been with BSF for many years now.. I look forward in meeting every Thursday with these beautiful ladies of God.. Sending blessings to everyone this year with abundance of wisdom in growing in the word!!
Looking forward to a great year!
Did all BSF members receive this email? I hope so thank you
Lucille – they did! But feel free to share any helpful information with your group. Some may have missed these articles
I would really like it if you left the notes & lectures up after the yearis finished. I like going back & listening to them!
Bonnie – me too! I usually print the PDF or order the book so I can read my notes after the study year! I’ll send your note about the lectures to our curriculum team.
Great ideas! Keeps groups on target.
Very well spoken Hope everyone reads this.
Excellent ideas I will remember in any group
Thank you,
Reminder for ” balanced” sharing. Pray for Holy Spirit leading when to respond. Don’t be tempted to answer every question! (Guidance for self here:-)
I’m excited on meeting our new leader for this year in class and making some more new friends I’m excited about this study on John! it’s going to be awesome.
I am so BLESSED with BSF!!!
Romans 12:2, romans 8:28
If we open to renewal of our minds, God”s grace/mercies will use all things for our growth and good.
Thank you BSF for helping us grow in Christ.
Great tips! Thank you.
This is wonderful help! Thank you!
Thank you. All are wise suggestions for each of us to take to heart, so we as a group, will be blessed through open & focused discussion. All glory to our God and Savior
I love BSF. I do think being open is also talking about what is happening to our country. Sometimes I am hesitant because it borders on political but I truly believe we should not be silent about the evil overtaking us. Jesus never feared it.
Good focused information. Great reminder too. I really was touched by “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Thank you for the sound advice regarding group conversations. I truely do not have trouble setting other thoughts aside when I come to group – to me it is a place of sanctuary and switching off from the day-to-day. Looking forward to our studies in John and to reconnecting with my Sisters-in-Christ
Words can be used in a context that triggers people and emotions. For me intentional is Being Christ centered and not self centered, allowing Him (the Holy Spirit) to guide the spoken and unspoken sharing and consciously staying
“behind the cross” as we open our
hearts can keep our groups growing
in His power. That’s why we study together. Always be alert to the fierce spiritual forces of the enemy using any means to stir up dissensions.
Thank you very much for the beautiful guidelines.
This is wise, insightful advice to take into our new Study! Looking forward to a wonderfully blessed year of bonding, building community, and growing in my relationship with my Savior!
The use of words like “intentional”, and “building community”, (also “marginalized”, not used here) are “Woke” terms. They are increasingly overused in BSF materials, and blogs. Of course, we are to live are life with the focus of Christ. We need to guard against becoming too much like the culture around us. The only times “intentional” appears in the Bible are in regards to killing intentionally, or unintentionally.
Jen- thank you for the feedback! Hollie is writing a blog post in early September that I think you wil love! We are also working on several articles this year about how to stand apart from the culture while still making Christ known to those around us. We are praying those will be an encouragement!
Good point, Jen. However, I am doing better thinking of the word “intentional” or “with intentionality.”
I am an older adult, and my prayer life has increased dramatically. When I sit down to pray through my list of unsaved family, friends, and acquaintances, my fervency in how I pray and use of praying Scriptures over them has increased my intentionality…I do want God to save this person! These people! As I read Scripture, I look for verses to pray over people. God knows what I want and what he will do. I want Him to know how much I want this.
What does “woke” mean”?
Grace and peace, I find that a lot of times the same people answer all the questions and others doesn’t have a chance to speak. Perhaps you can address that in your next email or to group leaders. Thank you
I especially enjoyed the ‘remove distractions’ …be present w/the group. Be intentional. Get a piece of paper write down what’s on my mind anxieties, distractions, expectations of the evening and everything else consuming my thoughts. Getting my mind clutter out and on to the page frees us to focus on one another.
If we want to put worries aside to be present with our groups, we have to be intentional.
These suggestions give a gentle but clear path to follow – for BSF old-timers and beginners. Thank you!
Thank you for the reminder of focusing! Looking forward to starting up again soon. Prayers to all!
Very good. Thank you.
Thank-you for the five tips to use with small group BSF discussions. God will get the glory.
Very goof 5 steps to keep in mind for the coming year. Thank you.
Very good. Thank you and keep up the good work…I need and appreciate you. Showing up to all the meetings is key to getting the most out of the BSF experience. Looking forward to this year’s study of John.
Being a seasoned BSF member of over 25 years – these 5 suggestions remind me to Keep Christ first. When we leave our concerns at the Cross and focus on being taught by the Word of God and learning life lessons from our group, we will be able to close our time together ready to live life to its fullest. Thank you for this timely reminder
I desire to grow in the Lord
Great reminders for this coming year. And I love James 5:16, God is so good and willing to heal us!
Perfect advice! Sharing widely.
Thank you for this well-written article! I like the being “intentional” and getting our mind-clutter out on paper (lists help me)ahead of time, so I can relax and focus on the group and subject! Great tips! So excited about how the Lord is going to show up and reveal more of Himself to each of us this year!
Before you speak, think, “Is this relevant to the group discussion? Am I talking to draw attention to myself or to share for the good of the group?” Thinking of others’ edification rather than self exaltation is very important.
Thank you for the suggestions. They are very good and need to be remembered.
I like the part that says “am I talking to draw attention to my self or to God”its so profound, at times I would get carried away and share stories that are not relevant, for the sake of saying something, without focusing on God’s glory . Help me Lord to change.
Also the reminder that I have to be intentional about preparing for my study, is a take home for me
I love these suggestions. We should all read this through at our first meetings together as a group.
How can I order the book for the bible study John? I live in Colorado Springs, CO.?
Dear Ernestine – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
Group leaders calling on people to participate in the questions encourages all to interact so it’s not dead air or a topic los skipped over if no one volunteers then the leader can offer her perspective getting discussion going
I’m so looking forward to the new study and new group this year. Can I say I pray God blessed all participants
Thanks for theses helpful tips. These are really practical and relevant.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a nice journey with this new study.
Great points to remember and action
This is my first year to serve as a group leader. These five tips are things I plan to share at our group’s meet-and-greet. Great basic tips! BSF Women’s group study has made a big difference in my life this past two years. I am looking forward to the Study of John. May each and every one be richly blessed this year.
I liked this article a lot, Especially the two points, ‘stay on topic’ and ‘building community by making Bible Study a priority, and making follow-up a pattern that demonstrates my commitment to the group.’ I saw this demonstrated by the women and from my small group leader last year and it really touched my heart knowing others were praying for me and my situation–and cared to let me know they prayed.
I think that your idea of sharing prayer requests is a great way to not only build fellowship but to help us carry each other’s burdens.
Galatians 6:2
Also, doing a group activity (with families) outside of class, such as volunteering at Feed My Starving Children can be a community builder.
Both my friend, who rides with me, and I are excited for the forthcoming BSF study. We both have learned so much digging deeper into His word. I so enjoyed the group I was in and, hate to leave them, but plan to meet other women to become friends. Nothinbutlov
Has BSF stopped the daily dive? I thought that was a great tool. I don’t see it in that books or on line.
Rich – unfortunately we did not produce the daily dive this year. I will let our content team know that you are missing it!
Oh no! No Daily Dive! Please bring it back. ♥️
I’ll let our content team know!
Excellent recommendations, this is a good way to grow in understanding and knowledge
of the Word of God.
I am 81 yr. old and almost miles away from the Zeeland or Holland, MI classes. So, am interested in finding a zoom group that meets at 7:30 or 8 pm.
Dear Linda – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
Or you can find a BSF Online group at bsfonline.org
The tip to stay focused and intentional was an eye opener for me personally. I can get distracted and caught up in my own thoughts so easily. I am praying to be more intentional, focused in prayer, Bible study, and in my group. It’s scary to be vulnerable but I want to be honest and genuine.
I like the idea of writing down distracting thoughts! I’m going to try that, even in my personal Bible time. You can go back to them later and not worry about forgetting something important.
Thanks!
I love BSF. I feel I’ve come a long way in opening up about things but I still have a long way to go. My group leaders are awesome! This makes my 6th year, I think. So thankful we got to bring it to our little town. I try to make sure I can answer several question because I hate leaving our leader with no one talking. I’m thankful for the few that are very knowledgeable about the Bible and can speak up when others can’t. I love these suggestions you posted and I pray everyone has an awesome year!!! God bless
I love BSF and my whole family has grown so much in the knowledge of the Bible and in our spiritual lives. I love connecting with other group members and bringing non believing women to BSF, but now that they are mixing (go-locating) men and women. These relationships are hampered. Widows sand single ladies feel left out. Those important little conversations afterwards don’t happen because the other spouse wants to leave right away. Naturally everyone is more distracted by having the opposite sex in the building. Sharing is deminished. Ladies don’t ask for prayer for their husbands, because they fear the ladies might mention it to them in the lobby. No one can be as transparent, because they may have issues with in the family, but they don’t want it to get back to their spouse. The effectiveness of having all men or all women groups is gone. So sad and an end of an era. I’m sure that in the near future they will have men and women in the same discussion groups.
Dear Kara, this is a great point to raise to your group leader or class leadership. Many families find it easier to be involved in co-located classes so they can study on a single night, but your feedback could be invaluable to class leadership as they navigate this new concept
I would add that you should try to hold back from answering multiple questions. Sometimes others are intimidated and will not give a great contribution because they feel lacking in biblical knowledge.
Thank you for providing an avenue for feedback about group discussion tips. While I am extremely sensitive about not dominating the talking points, I am perplexed about the amount of silence when the group leader solicits feedback and only a select few responds (via Zoom sessions, as well as in person sessions). Consequently, over the course of an evening so much time is attribued to silence (and our reluctance to keep from saying something to get the conversation started). Because some folks are more comfortable listening than engaging in discussions, unless the group leader is intentional about soliciting feedback from those who seldom contribute, the sessions can become awkward for those who are eager to discuss the subject matter. The breakout rooms are great for building community but they should not be the end all for promoting engagement. Nevertheless, I love the BSF curriculum and enjoy sharing the gospel with others albeit spoken our unspoken.
Ive already started this blessed study on John and its feeding my soul! We are going to feast on God’s goodness this year, everybody!
This is very helpful advice. Thank you🥰.
Good advice!
I was a little bit distressed when I heard that we would not be in the same group this year. This article helped. As I thought about it more, I realized that last year I didn’t know anyone in my group yet, over time, they all became an important part of my life. I look forward to seeing who God is putting in my life this year!
Thank you for the suggestions they were e helpful.
During the 2022-2023 BSF year, we were all encouraged to return in person if possible. Upon doing so, I was very disappointed to see that BSF leaders/organizers ignored the potential for the BSF gatherings to become Covid super spreader events. No masking was encouraged, nor social distancing encouraged in either the small groups nor the large mass meetings. I expressed my concern to my small group leader and the only option was for me to leave the group and join a zoom team instead. That option protects only me, but not the larger BSF community. I feel that BSF holds a greater responsibility to help keep covid under control to protect the greater BSF community.
Mack – thank you for sharing. Individual classes around the world were able to return to in-person meetings in accordance with their country’s regulations. We are so grateful God positioned BSF to move to online groups quickly during the pandemic. It is amazing how God prepared BSF years earlier to make the transition to Zoom quickly.
These are great tips. Thanks to BSF, it keeps me from being lazy and accountable to open the bible and study. Plus you make new friends. I love John and so excited to start.
I heard it said once that when we choose to share what the Lord has shown us through the study, this might be the very thing someone else in the group needs to hear. We bless our group and the overall richness of the sharing when we are willing to share what the Lord is teaching us.
If one of our goals is to get to know each person in our group, we should keep groups the same for more than one year.
EXCELLENT tips!: well-said in just four relevant points. I am praying they are read, remembered, and applied. Thankns
I am looking so very forward to another BSF study…for 10 years I have attended now and has helped me realize in wonderful beautiful depth how important it is to know God and His Will for us in His everlasting Love. Forever and ever ! I love meeting new friends…and the many friends I have met still stay connected. How wonderful is that?!?
Grace, tolerance, whatever you want to call it, allow that there are differences of opinion that are “in house” differences. Disagree but don’t be disagreeable.
I love our discussions, but sometimes our focus is interrupted because someone wants to interject a political, current event or theorist topic. This makes me uneasy and is often divisive. I have spoken to my group leader and she tries to deflect whereever possible, however, it keeps happening. It’s like someone let the world out of the closet, very disheartening.
This blog entry of suggestions for a better group study is so pertinent. Thank you for posting this.
Thank you for these guidelines. This will be my second year in BSF, and I feel like I have a better understanding of how to be an active listener and participant.
Looking for a mens group in Niceville Florida. Can you tell me if there’s one?
Dear Rebecca – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
The ‘5 tips’ are very appropriate when we approach a new study time and new groups. Small groups can be very helpful but cannot be dominated by one or two – must be comfortable for all to share personal issues and feelings.
I am going to enter my fourth year with BSF, my last year I finally lifted the veil that held me back I always worried that my answers were wrong. I was very intimedated by the ladies that seemed to know the answers. Then it happened I just opened my heart to our Lord and let myself join in more while discussing the lessons and I am really looking forward to studying John.
Up through the previous study, there was a pdf document on mybsf for download named, “Maximizing BSF Discussion Groups”. I just searched for it in the Resources and it’s no longer there. It has great bullet points on, Best Practices (during group), Pitfalls to Avoid (during group), and Preparing for Discussion. For years, they were read by the group leader on the first day and every member given a printed copy. When they stopped handing them out, discussion time oftentimes included tangents barely connected to the question, issues with confidentiality, and the big one, using commentaries.
Why has it been removed?
Dear JDI – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
Hi Bennet – – I’ve had the digital file for many years and a print version for more than 30. That particular handout and the emphasis of the points following personal introductions on the first day of class had always been done because they’re so important. I think it’s a valuable tool for all. If it’s in the physical book, great. If not, it really should be there because it really expounds on not just the 4 points of this blog but adds several more key points that bring personal study and group time parameters which increase growth and value to both. If it’s been removed from myBSF, it should be restored, in my opinion.
Thank you for the feedback! I’ll work on locating this and let our curriculum team know. It is likely in the Resource Library but we can definitely link to it from the blog. GREAT idea!
Thank you so much for these tips and ways to spur me on! I always have room to grow. Sometimes, just the reminder is helpful.
Preferring BSF questions strictly focus on the passage/the Bible and personal application questions reserved for socials or personal consideration; not during the group discussion/learning time.
I prefer to stay on topic and not get personally involved with politics because it’s such an explosive subject now.
The suggestions were extremely helpful. Some of the group members do get off topic sometimes and it takes away from the focus of the questions, etc
I agree with Fay! We should stay on our study and not get distracted
Great steps for BSF and for life in general loved all the scriptures. Feel so blessed by our group and the support given to us by BSF. May God continue to bless this wonderful ministry
I love BSF and feel so blessed to have found one near me. I have grown so much with the help of these studies in the last 8 years. Hope you all have a blessed year studying John!
Praying that the Holy Spirit focuses my mind on Jesus and guides my thoughts to what God wants me to learn is always helpful to me. I am not usually successful in calming my own mind. I need help from the Holy Spirit in prayer before the meeting.
As a GL for 15 years I found the most insightful group discussions were when the members came with competed lessons. Also as group members pray for the discussion time.
I believe we should also give others an opportunity to share so one or two people are not dominating the discussion
Very good guidelines. I especially appreciate “staying on topic “. When we get off on “rabbit trails” it eats up our time to discuss our scriptures and applications.
Yes, it makes me feel uncomfortable especially if someone says something divisive or gets on a political topic.
This is very helpful to start the new year with a focus on the Lord, and on the women that he’s going to give me.
I never feel like I’ve got it together when I come, but I know that the Lord uses me beyond that and I’m so grateful.
These tips were very helpful. Focussing on growth of group not self elevation. Looking forward to the study.
Very useful tips. If everyone follows them it actually makes the job of the Group Leaders very easy.
In the past the whole group did not have access to cell #, emails so it was hard to get close with members of the group. Only the group leader had that info.
I feel that at the beginning of year this info should be given out ( possibly birthdays as well) so we can extend beyond our weekly meetings.
I agree with Mary Ann. For those who want to participate and share an email or cell # we should be given the opportunity to do so. I meet on Zoom so it is nearly impossible to get to know group members without this information. Of course it should not be mandatory, but it should be offered.
I agree. When a classmate is sick, we can send a card, call her, or even take treat.
We should also commit that we will not share the information and we should have the option to say no to being included in th class list.
I agree with this. I don’t feel like I know even the names of the ppl in my group last year and I usually do. It seemed too
impersonal.
Great idea! Handouts work🥰
My group last year set up a group text. This allowed prayer requests to be sent out throughout the week, along with updates and praises. This created another way to stay connected outside of group meetings.
These are excellent tips for group dynamics. For someone who is a leader, how would you navigate discussion within the group when “one” person may seem to dominate the discussion? Thank you.
I would love to hear strategies on this. ❤️
I think everyone has a chance to talk if they want to. We have a lady in our group who is so knowledgeable about scripture and she can talk a lot, but I love listening to her. If you have input speak out. Don’t feel that you can’t. God uses us all.
I tried to set the tone at the first meeting. I requested that everyone extend courtesy to each other, so everyone has an opportunity to share. And, that our time is limited and we have to avoid rabbit trails. Then, it seemed to be expected and excepted when I would have to move them on to next question. All done with a smile. I had an exceptional group.
I tried to set the tone at the first meeting. I requested that everyone extend courtesy to each other, so everyone has an opportunity to share. And, that our time is limited and we have to avoid rabbit trails. Then, it seemed to be expected and accepted when I would have to move them on to next question. All done with a smile. I had an exceptional group.
I love this! Especially writing down your distractions on paper. Not only for myself but for the group members. We can also pray together over those distractions together!
Also I love the transparency statement, I have witnessed being transparent will open the door for other group members to share. Sometimes I have felt as though I am subjecting myself to possible judgement. But who cares I have a true love and passion to understand God’s word and how to make it practical in my everyday life. What an awesome honest way to share and encourage each other in their faith and spiritual walk. We all have that common goal. BSF has truly invested in my soul and spiritual walk with Christ! Thank you for the tips!
Tip: Commit to Participate
A Group by definition is a collection of people meeting together for a common goal.
If people join a face-2-face group, there is more nonverbal pressure to answer the questions. When participating on Zoom, although most use the camera and can be seen, so many do not participate with answering the questions. That leaves a few with the responsibility to contribute which leads to only a few still answering the question.
Research shows that people will retain 7% of what they Hear & 93% comes from interaction. That means those who show up just to listen are not really learning much.
It takes “active participation” (body, mind, spirit) to gain the most from group interactions.
A Commitment to Participate should be expected from all members if they agree to join the Bible Study. There are easy, factual answers that can be found in every lesson.
In an attempt to foster participation, one of my “leaders” asked the group to identify two questions from the lesson in which they felt comfortable to answer. That helped a little.
Excellent response -all must make an effort
Excellent points
I look forward to studying the book of John this year. It’s one of my favourite book in the bible. These tips will definitely help me.
I understand your point about everyone participating and I would like to share my thoughts. This will be my 3rd year in a ZOOM group. I am not close to a person to person group. My girlfriend encouraged me to join a BSF study. I was reluctant, but finally agreed. The only reason I agreed was because I was told I could listen if I didn’t want to talk. After the first session, I was terrified because I wasn’t anywhere close to the knowledge of the women…..their answers to the questions would never have entered my mind. I was amazed at how much I didn’t know. So, feeling guilty that I wasn’t talking, I started asking questions about the questions in the lesson. I became a “devil’s advocate” because I didn’t understand many things that these veteran women had known and understood for a long time. I showed my vulnerability as suggested above. To this day, I’ve gotten more comfortable…..however, I’m still nervous about opening my mouth because I don’t want to appear stupid with my comment or answer to a question…..but I’m grateful that I don’t have to talk if I don’t feel comfortable about it…I’ve had certain days where I’m not prepared….or not feeling well and would just like to listen. I’m sure there are more like me out there….it’s true, contributing is important but for timid people (like myself) listening and learning was helpful when I was a “newbie” to BSF study. PS. My name is Gail as well!
Gail – you are not alone! Praying for your group this year. We are all new the Bible at some point and I know your questions will help those veteran BSFers think about the passage in a new way. Your group leader is your advocate – don’t be afraid to share your concerns with her. She is there for you!
Very helpful. Thank you 🙏🙏
It’s always hard for me, at the beginning of each BSF season, to adjust to being in a new group. I do participate but it’s so so hard! Hoping it will get easier as time goes on. This will be my 7th year!
Thankyou for these insightful suggestions that will help all of us get more out of our meetings. Looking forward to my first time doing this online!
This is so helpful! I’m going to post it on my mirror so I can see the reminder often. Thanks a ton!!
Thanks for the good advice and biblical references. I learn something new every day!
I cannot count the times , during our discussions, I have come across verses I have forgotten or didn’t understand. It reminds me to continue praying for wisdom of God’s word.
This was very helpful! I’m mostly concerned about distractions since I’m going through a stressful season of life. I will use the tip to write down any distractions before I go to group. Please pray for me in this area
Wow! I read all the comments thus far and Thank God a friend brought me to BSF. Although I attended Mass every Sunday, soon came to realize I did NOT have a personal relationship with God & BSF, through the Holy Spirit changed all that. I love the vulnerable, busy, apprehensive ladies being so open and their sisters in Christ lifting them up. When I came I didn’t know how to find the Scripture to answer the question. Knew nothing about the Bible. My leader had the patience of a Saint and prayed with me over the phone, led me step by step, and just stayed with me; and my life has changed completely. Thanks be to God. Hang in there ladies there is power in these groups. God’s magnificent and unimaginable power.
Great tips, thanks for the article and the comments.
Toni this is so encouraging! Praising God for how He has used BSF and an encouraging leader to grow your faith! What a Mighty God we serve! I too have been so blessed by BSF over the years! My relationship with the Lord has grown through studying His word as well! Thanks for sharing your journey!
Thanks for sharing that, Toni. It has been my privilege to be a BSF leader for many years, and you are the kind of woman that we love to hear about! I praise God for the way He is inspiring you to grow in your walk with Him through His Word, His persistent love, and the devoted people He is placing in your life! Keep growing and please keep sharing your excitement—it inspires us all!
Toni, thank you for sharing your journey in growing your relationship with God! I have been a BSF leader for many years and love praying for people just like you to walk through the door each year! We are all growing in Christ, and the more we give of ourselves to Him, the more He gives us of Himself! Keep up the good work—your enthusiasm is contagious to us all!
Should I stay in contact with previous group members?
yes definately 100%. That’s how you make true friends.
Yes! I met some of my best friends in BSF groups. There is something very special about having the Bible at the center of a friendship.
Why not? If both of you have made a connection, and both of you want to. Just remember, each new year brings a new class together (with maybe a few same people) with chance to make new connections, learn from and interact with new faces and personalities.
Thank you for the tips.
They will are very helpful.
My first TL taught us to thank each person at the end of their comment. “Thanks Joe” and no more. Joe now feels heard and appreciated. He knows he has a “place” in the group.
Let the group add or piggyback to his comment.
If *I* add to his comment I just made their follow up comments unnecessary.
Basic psychology: The person who talks the most likes the person who listens the most.
(High school cheerleaders learn this – get the big football player to talk and he will fall for her!)
My pet peeve was a former GL who would “fix” or “re-route” my comments.
Excited to kick off year 18 in BSF!
Thank you for the great tips!
These 5 tips are certainly enriching and encouraging and I’m excited to begin the study of “The Gospel of John”.
The BSF group discussion model has taught me how to facilitate group discussion for church life groups and ladies home bible studies. These ideas have been proven to build very beneficial groups. Thank you BSF
Great to get these tips and to have some rules!
Great tips and reminders. I actually wrote them down so that I can review them often.
So thankful for the tip about letting go of things weighing me down before class! Writing down the issues will likely make a difference and help me to pray and get ready for the evening’s meeting! Excited to begin the study of John!
Let others join in the discussion. It is good to see what God is doing in discussion member’s life.
I found all the members wanted to do was debate Bible facts to show who knew more than others. Every time I tried to aim discussion towards how can we apply what we are leaning to our current lives, everyone just stated at me & would not say a word. I gave up!
Never give up, Kathryn. God is able to do the impossible, so we should not lose hope. Keep formulating questions on what they can learn about God from what they are saying. I am praying that God will make a breakthrough for you this year. God does not ask you to be successful, only faithful.
Nooo! So sorry to hear that!! I’ve never been in a group like that! Occasionally there may be a person who thinks they’ve got it all figured out, but mostly we’re all growing and learning from each other through our study and through our questions. Please don’t give up – bible study is about what God has for you, read, pray, meditate and listen for His voice within it.
I agree to commit to the suggestions for better discussions.
Such encouragement for all leaders but especially a NEW leader. It provides help to overcome the feeling of inadequacy. We are not going to change hearts until we submit to Him as a vessel for His Kingdom.
Thank you for your 5 – Step insights to a healthy small group discussion time. While all are true, I especially like step 1, clearing the mind from anxieties by writing them out and a heartfelt prayer will go a long way to preparing to share and receive from each other.
These tips are so valuable. I love #2, “Remove Distractions”. It will surely make for better class interaction and flow, which will foster #4 “Stay on Topic”. Thanks
This is very helpful as so go into my first year as an OGL the succinct points will be used! Thank you
This is such an excellent blog. Thank you! My question is, “How does a group handle a leader who seems to want no discussion, and is just interested in assuring there is an answer to every question?” It seems it is not a discussion when the leader is overly concerned about getting through all the questions.
Hello, I joined BSF in 2009. I enjoyed the rules of engagement and it made interactions easier. I also took on greater responsibilities by becoming an usher, then a discussion group leader. I loved preparing for lessons and interacting with the other leaders. We also had outside fellowship periods by meeting in different homes in our communities. So much has changed that it seems that anything goes such as you do not have to do the lessons in order to participate in the group discussions. How can you stay on topic when the floor is open to any and all comments – including the movies and popular books. We were also encouraged to let others speak. Frequently one or two people dominate the discussions. I feel that this may have led to many people dropping out of the group – they never had a chance to speak. Maybe we can find some middle ground.
It might help the group if, should you have a question when preparing for group discussion, you do some research on it. The additional information, especially if it includes Bible references, may prove invaluable.
Our group of men meets via Zoom throughout the study year. At the end of last year, we decided to meet in person this summer over a meal and get to know one another better in person. This Next Monday will be our third supper time together this year. We are looking forward to starting the study of John’s Gospel together. We are thankful for our leader who comes prepared with questions and keeps us involved in discussions.
I loved the scripture references. Something to hold onto for future use.
Very good tips. Thank you
These are great tips. Looking forward to start the 2023-24 BSF year.
BSF
Bible study foremost and 1st priority.
Fellowship can and will happen without being coerced or uncomfortable.
I think by doing #1 and #2 – the remaining 3 steps will follow! Consider starting with writing down your own “distractions” on a piece of paper and putting them in a “wait basket”. (this could be a basket you bring every week & set in the middle of the group) Demonstrating your own vulnerability may encourage your group to do the same. These are distractions that can interfere with staying “on topic” and “being present” during discussion. These “wait basket” items may be things that become part of the group prayer list (or only the GL prayer list) – which will help build community within the group. All of which will contribute toward growth when they see how God responds or at least be an example to those who will remember this NEXT year in BSF!
I love that idea of the “wait basket”. Cute! Thanks for sharing, brother Jeri!
Really helpful!
These are helpful tips. It is good to have these tips in mind before starting in September. Thank you!
Very inspiring
Thank you
Thank you so very much for sharing this! They really help me focus and prepare to begin the new study. I am so looking forward to meeting our new group! Thank you! And blessings, for all you do.
I have always thought that some of the questions we are given go to a personal depth that are appropriate for a close friend. However often in the group those relationships have not been solidified . So it seems to me that this is a forced technique which for the most part turns me off totally. I do not mind being vulnerable and at my age I have nothing to hide. However this has always bothered me about some questions.
Jim, that is completely understandable. Relationships and trust in a group can take time. Some are more willing to share personal details than others – and that is ok. I loved Todd Wethall’s blog post about how God has placed each of us in our groups for a reason! We will be praying for your group this year!
Jim,
I appreciate those “cringe” questions because they force extra thought (Or the guys just skip over it!)
But you and I know men are the worst about opening up! They love to deflect with “I just need to pray more” or something generic.
But at least that question was put in front of them. Sometimes it gets wheels turning.
My wife is a GL and frequently comments how they got stuck on those questions with tons of tears.
When we hit one of THOSE questions I recite my frequent disclaimer
“What’s said in BSF stays in BSF. We don’t need all the details, let’s just talk ABOUT it.”
Thanks for sharing this. You have expressed what I sometimes feel. In which case I normally choose not to share those aspects I feel are too personal.
Using the Lord’s word brings me comfort when I share current thoughts that match today’s challenges . Not for controversy but to grow inn His word and direction
The group facilitator/leader must make sure a person doesn’t manipulate the conversation. Especially on a “personal” application question. The leader can call the person after class and in love let them know that everyone needs a chance to participate in answering the questions…especially in questions where its asking you about how you feel or how you handle a situation. Those questions with personal application. Also, if this person has told the answer before about a situation in their life or circumstance it doesn’t need repeating again, referred to briefly would do.
Thank you so much for putting this out there just in time for the start of BSF!! I love the bible verses that were included and plan to share these in my class. My favorite is Hebrews 10:24-25 Spur each other on and encourage one another. AMEN!
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement! Looking forward to a delightful year studying the unadulterated word of God! Blessings💕 Sandra Roquemore
I joined BSF near the end of last year. I have since moved to another area, there’s no group near where I live now.
How do I get my book for this year and how do I sign up for on-line/zoom discussion?
Please and thank you very much.
Dear Elizabeth – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
I tell my group if they need to pray I will pray with them after class.
Some times we have four
Or five ladies to stay after to pray and praise God
The pastor lets us stay .
I loved the suggestion to clear the mind by writing everything down on paper.
Very helpful tips. Thank you💓
Staying on track and giving
everyone a chance to speak
is so helpful for the group!
Amazing tips.
I joined BSF near the end of last year. I have since moved to another area, there’s no group near where I live now.
How do I get my book for this year and how do I sign up for on-line/zoom discussion?
Please and thank you very much.
Dear Elizabeth – If you go to mybsf.org and click “need technical help” in the bottom right corner, you can create a member support request. Our member support team will be happy to help!
Very helpful tips reminding me to keep on topic and not get sidetracked and miss out on what our Matchless Lord Jesus wants me to learn
I will definitely try to connect and to get to know some members of the group…Thanks for the tips.
Thanks a lots for the tips. What I liked most was – to be intentional & vulnerable to build a strong bond in the group.
Thank you for this help. I am starting my third year in BSF study. The first year was terribly hard. I wanted to learn how to read the bible and understand. BSF is wonderful. There were many times I read the scripture, the study guide, the resource guides and on my own more. Then I would albeit timidly share my responses on the study and would be blown away how I didn’t read or see the same as fellow members of my group. I love that I learned from them. Sharing is very hard; especially when you know you don’t have the confidence of say someone in your group that has been participating in BSF for years and years. The first year I tried hard to fit in. There was a circle of chairs and one week another lady and i walked in together and no one budged, or moved over to make room for two more chairs. Finally a lady said, let’s move over a bit and make room. LOL. Well we are all different and the same. I made it through first year and I was hooked. I find the the quiet time with God and reading the bible is my every my morning time. The second year I talked my daughter into going to BSF with me. She is a believer, like me, who just fell through the cracks and didn’t know exactly where to start reading the bible. She spoke with a pure heart and after the first meeting and introduction she said, “I want to learn and hear everything you say.” As a mom I admittedly felt like a failure. Why haven’t I dug deeper in the Word and prayed openly with my family. I know we are good people but we were not living in Christ. The group we were assigned to last year was wonderful. My Leader for open and her heart was for everyone around our group. There was many differences in all of us yet we all shared openly. This is BSF. So now the third year is coming up. We already have a couple that need a different day and time to attend. I am anxious and excited to start up again, praying God brings us a group together like last year’s. These tips for a good group discussion is very helpful. No one has really given me any rules for the year. Last year one lady commented that in the early years of BSF if you missed a certain number of meetings you were out. I never once felt that way this year or saw that. We met in the evenings and there were winter bad weather days that made it difficult to drive and they just couldn’t make it. There is the online lecture following each week that was very helpful. When our studies ended in May all I could think of was, I don’t want to lose contact with any of these ladies. But if work and family and events overcome that I know that our time in this study and supporting each other in prayers kept me coming back. Looking for to the study this year!
Vicky – thank you for sharing! Praying for your group this year – so grateful for the way God works through His Word. Encouraged by your heart for the Lord!
Thank you for the tips. I agree to be intentional and vulnerable to the group since we are all seekers of the word to build us stronger and deeper..
This is truly helpful to me personally towards my growth and knowledge of being intentional Bible study scholar Sharing time with each one in my group so I can get to know them is great Hebrew 10:24-25
Many many many years ago in our BSF circle, we were encouraged to write down a prayer request and exchange with the neighbor sitting next to us. We were also encouraged to sit in different places each week so we would get to know each other better.
Another method is to use a specific question and have a partner share – when you pair off and share with each other. This also helps to get to know one another and is less intimidating than speaking out in the whole group.
Very practical tips. Thanks
Someone was not happy that a few GM do not prepare but only come to listen. How to respond to such complaints?
Hi Sally! That’s a great question. While we always want to encourage participation and have everyone dive into the John study, it is good to have compassion for those that may feel overwhelmed by the study or by life. Perhaps they are seekers or new believers that have never ready the Bible and need to listen to understand. Or maybe they have circumstances that prevent them from being able to do the study for now. This might be a good time to reach out to your leader for advice as you seek to understand how to encourage this person in your group.
Very helpful tips, thank you!!
Hi Sally,
I was new to Bible study and came unprepared for at least a year. I absolutely could not understand how we could read the same chapter and my group members found such rich answers to the questions. I would write their answers in red ink on my homework. I thank God my group leader was so patient with me. Listening to their answers led me to the realization that I was NOT saved and thus veiled. Once the Holy Spirit moved in, the answers came..slowly but surely. Now as a group leader I encourage new BSF members by saying ” Do not,not come to group because you have not finished your homework. This is a buffet where we dine on Gods’ Word. It is Please come and be fed” I show my red ink filled pages from my start in BSF to encourage new group members. I hope this personal insight helps.
This is a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing . BSF should be a safe place to come, wherever one is coming from.
Sally,
Not everyone is at the same level. And some have very limited time.
I remember as a newbie scratching answering on my paper in the parking lot 2 minutes before start.
I believe God sent them and it’s MY job to honor Him by getting the scripture “out in the air”.
It’s the Holy Spirit’s job to embed it in their hearts.
Personally I learn better by HEARING than by READING.
Just love ’em.
Thank you for sharing this information. I have been feeling very nervous about attending a new group for BSF and even thinking of changing and going online. After reading the blog I know I need to trust God and be more vulnerable
In-person Fellowship is so important! I pray that you go in-person and that your discussion group is all that God has for you! Don’t be nervous … just enjoy knowing that God placed you specifically with the ladies that He wanted you to be with. It is going to be an amazing year! Enjoy!
Timely information.
Thank you BSF for these useful pointers to help steward my role as a GL! Much appreciated!
Very useful tips . Thank you
Am I able to apply the same 5 principles if the group consists of men & women?
What other points I should observe?
For example, in the topic of building a family with unity and harmony, I noted some members have difficulty in authenticating discussion when their respective families are not in such a stage.